GIVING birth can be one of the most stressful things you ever do, both mentally and physically.
And your partner's previous love life shouldn't even be a consideration as you prepare to welcome your newborn into the world.
But one mum-to-be discovered one of the midwives at the hospital where she is due to give birth had slept with her man, and now she's worried there could be a very awkward encounter in the delivery suite.
Taking to Mumsnet, she wrote: "Found out one of the midwives has slept with my DP (darling partner), years ago etc pre me.
"It's a small team there is a high chance she could be my midwife.
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"Would you be ok with this?" She asked.
Plenty of parents shared their advice as they filled more than 10 pages with their comments on how she should handle the situation.
While many tried to remind her that it was years ago, some just could not bear it saying: "It would be a big nope from me.
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"Quite enough intense emotions swirling around childbirth without having to deal with that undercurrent. I'd ask early on that she not be involved in your care."
Whilst many agreed it would make emotions too complicated, some got real about her situation, saying: "I'd be fine even if it was a bit odd.
"Sometimes this is just the reality of living in some areas," they reasoned.
Many were keen to find out how the mum-to-be discovered this about her partner, so she explained: "The FB page they share who the midwives are and he was like oh this is awkward haha.
"I'm not fussed about her really I'm just more thinking it may be distracting on the day, if she looks at him or vice versa who knows what my hormones will do."
A few mothers said it would depend how long ago their relationship was and if it was more that a fling, but one said it would make them feel guilt, as they wrote: "I wouldn't like it. I'd probably keep thinking about it, and then feel guilty because it was years ago… not really what you want as part of pregnancy care."
While one told her that her reaction could make childbirth more difficult, as they wrote: "Being stressed can slow labour.
"Worrying about this could affect the birth. I'd flag it now and just ask that if at all possible she not be involved in your care."
One told her that: "If you feel it would impact on your feelings of comfort and security at a time when you are potentially vulnerable anyway (ie during labour) just ask for it to be recorded on your notes that you don't wish to have her attend to/treat you because you know her socially.
"You don't need to go into details with them."
Some did not hold back and simply said: "Hell no."
"Nope just nope. I wouldn’t want her near me in my pregnant state." Another agreed.
While one commenter could relate to her unique situation, as they said: "This happened to me! It wasn’t the midwife who had delivered my baby, but one who came to check my stitches the next day.
"She and my Husband had dated in their late teens – they had a chat and a catch up over me as I lay there. I wasn’t bothered though."
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