DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend hasn’t had sex with me for three years and we’ve been together for four.

It’s weird. He says he can’t get an erection, though he has no issue when he pleasures himself using porn.


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He’s 24 and I’m 25.

He says he still loves me and doesn’t know why he can’t get aroused for me.

We have a great relationship apart from the sex.

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He’s talked about seeing the doctor but he doesn’t even try to have sex with me any more, and if he won’t try how does he know he still has a problem?

He’s only ever climaxed with one previous partner, and never with me.

DEIDRE SAYS: My guess is the porn sites have blunted his natural appetite for sex with a partner.

Looking at adult films can make individuals too reliant on their own touch.

These porn sites also encourage viewers to watch scenarios that are far more extreme than most people’s sex lives.

They are designed to hook you in.

My support pack Internet Pornography Worry explains more and how to get him away from the screen and interested in you.

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