Stepmother is branded ‘cruel’ for planning a family trip to Disneyland Paris with her daughter, 2, and not inviting her ‘spoilt and extremely rude’ stepsons
- Mother took to parenting site Mumsnet to explain dilemna over trip to France
- Said she’s paying and can’t afford to include stepsons, aged six and nine
- Added they don’t even say hello to her when they come to stay
- However, commenters said she needs to put more effort into relationsip
A stepmother planning a trip to Disneyland Paris with her daughter and husband has provoked a fierce debate after questioning whether she can avoid taking his two children from a previous relationship.
The unnamed mother took to the British parenting site Mumsnet to explain she feels she needs a stress-free break with her husband and two-year-old daughter after losing her father earlier this year.
She described her husband’s two sons, aged six and nine, and ‘spoilt and extremely rude’, claiming they don’t even say hello to her when they come to stay.
Adding that she’s paying for the trip and can’t afford to include them, she said that she will be treating them to other trips to holiday parks in the UK this year.
A flurry of commenters criticised her attitude to her stepchildren, and claimed that behaviour like this means children will need therapy in the future, while others said her daughter is too young to enjoy Disneyland and that it’s ‘cruel’ to leave the older children out.
However, others were supportive and said they couldn’t see a problem in her going on holiday with just her daughter in the same way that her husband’s ex will presumably go away with her sons.
A stepmother planning a trip to Disneyland Paris with her daughter and husband has provoked a fierce debate after questioning whether she can avoid taking his two children from a previous relationship (stock image)
The unnamed woman told Mumsnet that she needs a break after the death of her father and can’t afford to include her two stepsons, who are also ‘rude and spoilt’
Explaining the situation, the mother said: ‘I want to take my daughter to Disneyland Paris with my husband. I’ve had a rough year losing my father and could do with a small break with my little one (stress free), and also take advantage of her going free as she is under three.’
She asked if it would be unreasonable to exlude her partners two sons, saying: ‘They are spoilt children who get everything they want as soon as they click their fingers.
‘They are extremely rude to me and state I am not their family and don’t even say hello when they come to stay over.’
She claimed their ‘birth mother’ is a ‘complete b****’ and encourages their behaviour.
The mother was met with a flood of negative comments from people who claimed that her attitude is the problem and not her stepsons, and urged her not to exclude them from the trip
‘I am paying for it and wouldn’t be able to afford to take them. They have been before while their parents were together. I am still treating them to a few days in holiday park in the UK, but want to do Disney without them.’
She added that her husband is paying their mother ‘extortionate amounts of maintenance which she enjoys spending on designer items’.
The post was immediately flooded with criticism from commenters who said that the stepmother needed to change her attitude.
Others said that her daughter, two, is too young to get much out of the trip to Disneyland and accused her of being deliberately hurtful to her stepsons
‘I swear in years to come we’re going to have countless kids in therapy due to being in “blended” families like this one wrote.’
Another pointed out that the mother would no doubt be angry if her partner took his sons to Disneyland and didn’t include her daughter, while several said her child is too young to get anything out of a trip to the theme park.
‘Your partner’s children would get a lot more out of Disneyland than your toddler would and you obviously know this. You just don’t like them so don’t want to take them,’ one said.
‘I wonder why you had a child with this man when you clearly dislike his children and have signed up to a life involving a woman you seem to hate.’
Others said that her partner’s children are part of the family and she either needs to accept that or end the marriage.
‘You knew he had kids before you got with him so just get used to it or leave, that’s just how life is going to be,’ one wrote, while another added: ‘Going as a little family without his kids is just cruel’.
Some commenters were supportive and said there’s no reason she can’t have a break with her child in the same way that her husband’s ex will take her son’s away on holiday alone
However, others were more understanding of the mother’s situation, saying that she’s not obliged to include them every single time.
‘You want to go for you and relax and have fun with your child minus the stress of children whose company you neither need or enjoy,’ one said.
‘Why should you have to take them everywhere you go? They don’t even need to know you’re away, never mind where you went.’
Another said it’s ‘perfectly reasonable’ to take her child on holiday ‘in the same way your stepsons’ mother is perfectly reasonable to take her sons on holiday anytime she wishes’.
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